[3 years Together]

I became this guys girl on February 8th of 2009. 

(yep, that is facebook official)

Met freshman year in speech class.

Dated during winter.

Fell in love.

Dreamed about the future.

Learned each others quirks.

Grew up together. 

Fought and forgave.

Went on adventures. 

Got married. 

Us in a nutshell. 

From freshman year to senior year, and we are more in love than ever.

5 Things Men and Women Do Differently

Mr. Shepherd here again! After being married for over 7 months and watching other couples for the past years, something has become very clear. Men and Women do things very very differently...

5 Things Men & Women Do Differently

1. Clean

            Men: Make sure everything is off the floor

            Women: Ask men to clean something and then follow behind them examining

2. Go to bed

            Men: Fall asleep in 2 minutes

            Women: Wait till men are asleep and then wake them up to “just talk”

3. Look in the mirror

            Men: just make sure they have on clothes

            Women: adjust the same piece of hair 30 times and then walk away frustrated

4. Shop

            Men: “What’s next on the list?”

            Women: “Oh my Gosh! They have a whole section of French Cheeses! We have to get some!”

5. Greet their friends

                                                        Guy 1: “What’s going on man?"

                                                        Guy 2: “Hey Man”

                                                                    (End of Greeting)

           

                                                        Girl 1 & 2: “AAAAAHHHHH!!!!!”

                                                                    (Hugging and Jumping)

                                                        Girl 1: “I love what you’ve done with your hair!”

                                                        Girl 2: “Thank yyoouuu…I just miss you so much!”

                                                        Girl 1 & 2: “KINDRED SPIRITS!!!”

           

I have only scratched the surface…

{the roles we fall into}

Jordan and I have been reading "Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts" by Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott. We really like this book so far, and today we read the chapter about myth one: "We Expect Exactly the Same Things from Marriage."

We each have unspoken roles and rules that we need to discuss and work through together so that little annoyances and problems don't turn into major issues.

Jordan and I have dealt with this very thing in our own marriage. There are roles I naturally assume and things I just expect him to take care of because that is how I watched it being done through my own parents' marriage. What we decided to do was identify the unconscious roles we fall into.

Here is our list:

Jordan's                             Alli's
navigator                          planner/scheduler
money manager               shopper
problem solver                 cleaner
comedian                          organizer/decorator
doctor                                gift buyer
leader                                 cook
secret keeper                     hostess

Do you think this sounds like us?

We also made a list of rules we want to follow. We both came up with five rules that were important to us, and now we have 10 things written down that we have committed to as a couple. Some of them are as as simple as 'always be on time' and 'wash the dishes after they have been used', but they are still important principles that will create a less stressful life and a healthier marriage.


I highly recommend this exercise for every engaged or married couple.

2 Years of Bliss

It seems like we have been dating forever, but in reality it has just been a few years. On February 8th we made a point to take some time out for ourselves, dwelling on the fact that the past years together have been some of the best years of our lives.

I am happy to say that Jordan Shepherd is my best friend, and I am completely in love with him. There is no other man for me.












Soon we will have a new anniversary day to celebrate :)